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Day 330 of 365
What Do You Want More Of Now?
After months of asking what you want less of, a different question deserves the microphone.
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DAY 330
Move From Less to More
Let what you want more of guide the adjustment, not only what went wrong. Your response can support a fuller life as well as a steadier evening.
FREE SPACE IS STRANGE WHEN YOU ARE USED TO A HABIT FILLING IT
At First You Notice What Is Missing. Later You Get to Choose What Arrives.
An evening opens.
A Saturday morning feels longer.
A dinner ends without the rest of the night disappearing.
At first, the win is simply:
nothing went wrong.
Eventually, that becomes too small a definition.
What would make something go right?
Why We Chose This For You
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THIS QUESTION CAN BE HARDER THAN 'WHAT SHOULD I FIX?'
Problems announce themselves. Desire can be quieter, especially after a long period spent managing risk. You may need to experiment before you know.
APPROACH GOALS CREATE A DESTINATION, NOT ONLY A RESTRICTION
Goals organized around desired experiences and values can provide direction beyond simply avoiding an unwanted behavior.
WHY THIS MATTERS
Approach-oriented goals can complement avoidance goals by directing behavior toward valued experiences, relationships and activities.
A Note For You
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ONE BENEFIT TO WATCH FOR
Naming What You Want More Of Gives Recovered Time and Attention Somewhere Positive to Go
You begin designing toward a life rather than merely maintaining distance from an old pattern.
WHY THIS MATTERS
Approach-oriented goals can complement avoidance goals by directing behavior toward valued experiences, relationships and activities.
WHAT PEOPLE DON'T TELL YOU
Wanting more good Saturdays is enough.
Meaning does not have to arrive as a grand mission. Ordinary desires can provide plenty of direction.
THE BENEFIT OF DAY 330
“Once you have made room, the next question is what deserves to live there.”
Cheers Without Beers
Your Version of Today's Experiment
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What to Take Away
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Today's Experiment
Choose Five More-Ofs
Without turning them into goals yet, name five things you would genuinely like to experience more often.
Think in Experiences
How do you want ordinary weeks to feel or function differently?
Remove the Shoulds
Cross out anything that mainly sounds impressive or responsible.
WHAT ARE YOU TESTING?
Can you describe the life you want in terms of experiences and qualities before forcing those desires into another achievement plan?
Circle One
Which ingredient would make the biggest positive difference if it appeared more often?
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What to Watch For
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WANT TO GO DEEPER?
Approach Motivation
Moving toward something can organize behavior differently than only moving away from something.
Avoidance can create powerful early momentum. Approach goals add a destination: something desirable enough to compete for time, attention and repeated behavior.
Name What You Want More Of
Ask the positive question.
Choose five qualities or experiences you want more often, remove the shoulds and circle the one that would add the most life.
A Gentle Warning
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BEFORE YOU GO
If nothing in your life needed fixing right now, what would you still want more of?
Think about the texture of the week, not what would look impressive from the outside.
TODAY'S TAKEAWAY
A Better Life Needs an Appetite, Not Only Boundaries
You spent months learning what no longer deserves as much of you. Start deciding what does.
Choose a Direction, Not a Reinvention
Tomorrow we keep this from becoming another giant self-improvement plan by choosing one direction to lean toward instead of rebuilding your identity again.
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